. . . mga pananaw ayon sa sariling karanasan [charos!]
=>Kahapon [March 12, 2009], dala na rin ng pagkabagot ko dahil nga dalawa lang ang artikulong naka-aasign sa’kin para sa araw nay un, napagpasyahan kong mag-google [mag-search] ng mga blog sites na kwela. Yun bang makakawala ng pagkabagot ko.
Sa kabutihang palad, nakatagpo naman ako ng katapat. Ayun. Napunta ako sa GreenPinoy.com at sa Leynv.blogspot.com. una kong binigyang pansin ang GreenPinoy.com. Hanep. Astig. Ang kwela [though may mga entries o posts na korni…hehehe]. Overall, nakapawi naman sya sa nalulumbay kong oras [hahaha..ang korni..].
Sa kabutihang pala, doon ko din natagpuan ang mga makukulit nab log sites. Lahat naman ng mga yun ay pinuntahan ko. Tiningnan ko kung bakit sila tinag [tagged] bilang makukulit na blogista. Sa kabuuan, masasabi kong may iilang kasali sa listahan na medyo hindi pumasok sa taste ko [hahaha…]. May mga makukulit talaga, may nagpapaka, at may sadyang wala lang.
Pero sa lahat ng iyon, masasabi kong ayos ang blog ni Leyn . Though medyo iritable ako sa maarte, masasabi ko namang may kabuluhan ang pagiging “maarte” ni Miss Jologs Socialite. Hindi naman sya nakakairita. Sa tingin ko, may karapatan naman syang mag-inarte [either ways…literal man o hindi..pananaw nyo nay un].
Natawa at nakulitan naman ako sa mga entries nya. At natuwa ako sa ideya nya ng hindi pagpapahintulot sa mga taong magkumento. Oo nga naman kasi, pansarili nyang pananaw iyon. Kaya walang pakialaman [cheers Ms. JS!hehehe].
Sa aking pagbabasa, narrating ko ang blog post nyang ito . . .
Of Ranting and Blunting (Titulo ng Blog Post)
“There are some things that should be left unsaid...
...one lesson that I've learned so far. I've been bugged by problems lately and I couldn't afford to be left out by my friends... friends? But, to what extent should you trust your life to them?
My life has been an open book to the people I love most; which I realized (in some cases) is wrong. Openness can lead to tons of negative reason that can be against you. Trustworthy friends might assume that they-know-all; your moves, decisions, the way you dress or even how you fall in love. Then if that so, can I sarcastically leave my ruined life for her to fix?
I really love being in a crowd, that's why I always try to make an effort to introduce all my friends from different worlds to meet and also befriends with one another. I never thought that this can lead to something... that there might be instances that they'll be talking behind my back or cause a ruined friendship. More like of, I've created a monster in one of them.”
Nakarelate ako. Oo nga, tama si Ms. L [hehehe…dami kong tawag..pasensya..]. I share the same sentiments regarding friends who tend to act as if they know me well. They act as if I have no ‘right to privacy’. Friends who thought I couldn’t stand up for myself.
I AM NOT AGAINST THEIR SPECIAL TREATMENT. I AM ACTUALLY THANKFUL AND FLATTERED. Kaya lang, kahit sinong tao ay darating sa puntong mas guustuhing mag-isa at magdesisyon ng mag-isa kesa humingi ng kung samo’t saring opinyon na sya naming hindi maintindihan ng iba [other friends].
Minsan, you’d rather talk less nalang instead of proclaiming to the whole society how you truly feel. Yet here are your so-called friends na hindi maintindihan ang ibig sabihin ng “alone” at ng “silence.”
IT’S OKAY TO COMFORT YOUR FRIENDS for I too do that. But, make sure that your friend [the one being comforted] does want your comfort. Minsan kasi, hindi nakakatulong. Minsan, nakakadagdag pa sa load na dinadala. BUT of course, IT DEPENDS UPON WHO THAT FRIEND IS/ARE.
But yes, the worst scene one could ever be into is, being talked by her ‘circle of friends’ behind her back. I haven’t experienced it yet [or maybe I am just not that aware] so I will be speaking for other people [perhaps my friends or colleagues or family]. It hurts really. It’s like crushing you down without giving you notice. It’s like being dumped. It’s like being hit by a knife from way behind your back. It is. It does.
On the other hand, I too understand why some of us [yes, I confess, I too talk behind my friends back…but with reasons…I’m giving you the right to pre-judge me] tend to talk behind our friends’ back. Personally, I do/did because there are really some people who couldn’t stand any comment. Meaning, people who don’t know how to listen to other people’s opinion. And us [let’s tag ‘us’ as the concerned ones…not the other way around], we have no choice but to speak up at least to somebody who we know share the same sentiment to the same person [the one you’re talking about].
Anyway, so where am I now? Well, I’m both. I won’t act as if I’m innocent of the said crime [back-stabbing]. I too is guilty of the said crime. Well, I guess, no one in this world naman ang hindi pa nakakapag-commit ng nasabing krimen [please allow me to use the word crime for this entry lang naman…hehehe].
Sa pangkabuuan, mas makakabuti sigurong manahimik nalang kung may opinion ka man o ikaw man ang nasasakdal [the person who’s being ‘comforted’ ulit]. Mas mabuti sigurong kung may personal kang pananaw sa buhay ay idaan mo nalang sa blog. Gaya nito [hahahaha].
Basta, ang alam ko lang to sum it all up. If you are a FRIEND, be it. if you choose to be an ENEMY, stand up for it. If you want to comfort your friend, do it in a subtle way or if not, WAIT until he/she is ready to speak up. Wag mong pangunahan ang kaibigan mo. Learn how to wait. :P
=>Kahapon [March 12, 2009], dala na rin ng pagkabagot ko dahil nga dalawa lang ang artikulong naka-aasign sa’kin para sa araw nay un, napagpasyahan kong mag-google [mag-search] ng mga blog sites na kwela. Yun bang makakawala ng pagkabagot ko.
Sa kabutihang palad, nakatagpo naman ako ng katapat. Ayun. Napunta ako sa GreenPinoy.com at sa Leynv.blogspot.com. una kong binigyang pansin ang GreenPinoy.com. Hanep. Astig. Ang kwela [though may mga entries o posts na korni…hehehe]. Overall, nakapawi naman sya sa nalulumbay kong oras [hahaha..ang korni..].
Sa kabutihang pala, doon ko din natagpuan ang mga makukulit nab log sites. Lahat naman ng mga yun ay pinuntahan ko. Tiningnan ko kung bakit sila tinag [tagged] bilang makukulit na blogista. Sa kabuuan, masasabi kong may iilang kasali sa listahan na medyo hindi pumasok sa taste ko [hahaha…]. May mga makukulit talaga, may nagpapaka, at may sadyang wala lang.
Pero sa lahat ng iyon, masasabi kong ayos ang blog ni Leyn . Though medyo iritable ako sa maarte, masasabi ko namang may kabuluhan ang pagiging “maarte” ni Miss Jologs Socialite. Hindi naman sya nakakairita. Sa tingin ko, may karapatan naman syang mag-inarte [either ways…literal man o hindi..pananaw nyo nay un].
Natawa at nakulitan naman ako sa mga entries nya. At natuwa ako sa ideya nya ng hindi pagpapahintulot sa mga taong magkumento. Oo nga naman kasi, pansarili nyang pananaw iyon. Kaya walang pakialaman [cheers Ms. JS!hehehe].
Sa aking pagbabasa, narrating ko ang blog post nyang ito . . .
Of Ranting and Blunting (Titulo ng Blog Post)
“There are some things that should be left unsaid...
...one lesson that I've learned so far. I've been bugged by problems lately and I couldn't afford to be left out by my friends... friends? But, to what extent should you trust your life to them?
My life has been an open book to the people I love most; which I realized (in some cases) is wrong. Openness can lead to tons of negative reason that can be against you. Trustworthy friends might assume that they-know-all; your moves, decisions, the way you dress or even how you fall in love. Then if that so, can I sarcastically leave my ruined life for her to fix?
I really love being in a crowd, that's why I always try to make an effort to introduce all my friends from different worlds to meet and also befriends with one another. I never thought that this can lead to something... that there might be instances that they'll be talking behind my back or cause a ruined friendship. More like of, I've created a monster in one of them.”
Nakarelate ako. Oo nga, tama si Ms. L [hehehe…dami kong tawag..pasensya..]. I share the same sentiments regarding friends who tend to act as if they know me well. They act as if I have no ‘right to privacy’. Friends who thought I couldn’t stand up for myself.
I AM NOT AGAINST THEIR SPECIAL TREATMENT. I AM ACTUALLY THANKFUL AND FLATTERED. Kaya lang, kahit sinong tao ay darating sa puntong mas guustuhing mag-isa at magdesisyon ng mag-isa kesa humingi ng kung samo’t saring opinyon na sya naming hindi maintindihan ng iba [other friends].
Minsan, you’d rather talk less nalang instead of proclaiming to the whole society how you truly feel. Yet here are your so-called friends na hindi maintindihan ang ibig sabihin ng “alone” at ng “silence.”
IT’S OKAY TO COMFORT YOUR FRIENDS for I too do that. But, make sure that your friend [the one being comforted] does want your comfort. Minsan kasi, hindi nakakatulong. Minsan, nakakadagdag pa sa load na dinadala. BUT of course, IT DEPENDS UPON WHO THAT FRIEND IS/ARE.
But yes, the worst scene one could ever be into is, being talked by her ‘circle of friends’ behind her back. I haven’t experienced it yet [or maybe I am just not that aware] so I will be speaking for other people [perhaps my friends or colleagues or family]. It hurts really. It’s like crushing you down without giving you notice. It’s like being dumped. It’s like being hit by a knife from way behind your back. It is. It does.
On the other hand, I too understand why some of us [yes, I confess, I too talk behind my friends back…but with reasons…I’m giving you the right to pre-judge me] tend to talk behind our friends’ back. Personally, I do/did because there are really some people who couldn’t stand any comment. Meaning, people who don’t know how to listen to other people’s opinion. And us [let’s tag ‘us’ as the concerned ones…not the other way around], we have no choice but to speak up at least to somebody who we know share the same sentiment to the same person [the one you’re talking about].
Anyway, so where am I now? Well, I’m both. I won’t act as if I’m innocent of the said crime [back-stabbing]. I too is guilty of the said crime. Well, I guess, no one in this world naman ang hindi pa nakakapag-commit ng nasabing krimen [please allow me to use the word crime for this entry lang naman…hehehe].
Sa pangkabuuan, mas makakabuti sigurong manahimik nalang kung may opinion ka man o ikaw man ang nasasakdal [the person who’s being ‘comforted’ ulit]. Mas mabuti sigurong kung may personal kang pananaw sa buhay ay idaan mo nalang sa blog. Gaya nito [hahahaha].
Basta, ang alam ko lang to sum it all up. If you are a FRIEND, be it. if you choose to be an ENEMY, stand up for it. If you want to comfort your friend, do it in a subtle way or if not, WAIT until he/she is ready to speak up. Wag mong pangunahan ang kaibigan mo. Learn how to wait. :P
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